Actually, I would love to hear all of your thoughts on this. I am a big fan of meta.
See, I am usually anti putting one person in a specific role. 95% of my ships are ~flexible. Maybe one tops more than the other, but I do believe there is a give and take with most relationships, at least time to time.
Archie; for me it isn't about him being smaller, or younger, or falling into a stereotype. It's about Archie's personality. I do believe that bottoms have more control and power than people give them credit for (especially with how much care a top has to put into their role) but that being said, there is a different sort of control and power that comes with topping, and I just see Archie as someone who would have a lot of trouble feeling comfortable constantly having to make sure someone is all right. He is the nervous sort, and would be so worried about hurting the person, about not doing it right, that I think it would take him an incredibly long time to feel comfortable in that role. Which is why I have trouble picturing him topping with anybody unless there were specific circumstances, or they were together for quite a long time.
I loved the way you built it here, with them having been together for a while, and with that sense of vulnerability on Neal's part when it comes to asking.
Neal is someone who I have trouble picturing bottoming, for the same reason I can't picture Archie topping. I think it would take a lot of comfort, and love for Neal to give up that control. I think for him, it would be like giving himself to someone completely, and it wouldn't be easy for him to do; to admit he trusts and loves someone that much. That being said, I am craving to write an incredibly emotion Cookmann where Neal bottoms, where Cook keeps asking him, and Neal keeps saying no, until Cook figures out why Neal is so against it...that it has more to do with emotions that preferences.
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See, I am usually anti putting one person in a specific role. 95% of my ships are ~flexible. Maybe one tops more than the other, but I do believe there is a give and take with most relationships, at least time to time.
Archie; for me it isn't about him being smaller, or younger, or falling into a stereotype. It's about Archie's personality. I do believe that bottoms have more control and power than people give them credit for (especially with how much care a top has to put into their role) but that being said, there is a different sort of control and power that comes with topping, and I just see Archie as someone who would have a lot of trouble feeling comfortable constantly having to make sure someone is all right. He is the nervous sort, and would be so worried about hurting the person, about not doing it right, that I think it would take him an incredibly long time to feel comfortable in that role. Which is why I have trouble picturing him topping with anybody unless there were specific circumstances, or they were together for quite a long time.
I loved the way you built it here, with them having been together for a while, and with that sense of vulnerability on Neal's part when it comes to asking.
Neal is someone who I have trouble picturing bottoming, for the same reason I can't picture Archie topping. I think it would take a lot of comfort, and love for Neal to give up that control. I think for him, it would be like giving himself to someone completely, and it wouldn't be easy for him to do; to admit he trusts and loves someone that much. That being said, I am craving to write an incredibly emotion Cookmann where Neal bottoms, where Cook keeps asking him, and Neal keeps saying no, until Cook figures out why Neal is so against it...that it has more to do with emotions that preferences.
and OMG, I just wrote you an essay. SORRY, haha.